Communication: the key to understanding relationships 17-09-2020
By: Marjorie Ariza
Lack of communication or impaired communication in the relationship with a partner are the reasons why people come to my office more often, which cause couples to stop understanding each other and that the fights become more frequent.
It is necessary to communicate in order to resolve conflicts, although it is often the cause that creates them. For effective communication to exist, it is also extremely important to know how to listen, since this is the act by which information is transmitted and received, we have to receive and understand it.
There must be dialogue because through this we can create a plan, a project of life in common.
Communication in the couple represents not only the ideal means to express feelings, thoughts, fears, perception of the couple and situations of life history, but also facilitates the way of organizing the relationship and creating a joint vision of the world (Fitspatrick, 1987; cited by Roca, 2003).
The most common causes that lead a couple to have communication problems would be:
To have an open, sincere and fluid communication in the relationship it is of the utmost importance that there are no lists of unresolved pending situations or problems between the two, since this creates an interference and even does not understand when it comes to dialogue even on the simplest issue.
When communication is negatively affected, it usually happens that
We will have better communication when we have as a priority to take time to speak at the right times, also when the message is specific, clear, brief, when we are flexible and use positive language among others.
It is vital for effective communication that we do not keep any pending, that we have expressed remorse, accept responsibility, restore, genuinely repent, ask for forgiveness as the case may be; as the author Gary Chapman describes in his book "5 languages of apology".
